Book List for Boys

Book List for Boys

Book List for Boys

After writing about how to encourage boys to love reading, I promised that I would share a book list for boys based on what has been popular for my sons and their friends. Since Christmas is coming up, this could also be a Christmas gift guide for boys on your list. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to give something other than toys. So, without further ado, let’s dive in!

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A few notes about these books:

Big Red Barn: After I borrowed it from the library and my eldest, who was 2 at the time, fell asleep while listening to the lyrical story, it has not only been a family favorite but a book that I gift to nearly all new parents.

We’re Going on a Bear Hunt: I found this gem at a used book store and, while I held fond memories of the story from when I was young, I wasn’t sure how it would go over. Turns out it is my toddler’s favorite story and sometimes the only way we can calm him down after a difficult nap wakeup.

The Very Hungry Caterpillar: Not much needs to be said about this classic book. Dare I say it has an almost cult-like following? But it’s still a winner and, in addition to the stuffed animals and various caterpillar toys, I learned recently that there’s a toddler app that is crazy adorable! One of the few apps where I actually purchased the full version.

Snuggle Puppy: I don’t actually own this one but a friend does. The love for this book can be clearly seen in this heartwarming and adorable video of her reading it to her daughter.

That’s Not My Tractor: If you haven’t yet hear of it, let me introduce you to the That’s Not My…” series. Every single one of these has been a hit. And we have several. As a bonus, if you know an Usborne rep, you can often support a WAHM by purchasing from her.

On the Night You Were Born: This is another that is often in my “new parent” gift package. It is about celebrating the uniqueness of your little one. Beautiful rhymes that make for a perfect bedtime or cuddle time story.

Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site: The first time my boys heard these stories was at my parents. Unfortunately that meant it would have been overkill to purchase them for my own shelves as we live right across the yard from my parents and these books were special to their time together. But last Christmas my mom decided to give them to my sister’s boys, who live farther away, as a reminder of their sweet times with Opa and Oma. So now they’re back on my wishlist for my boys (hint hint, in case anyone reading this knows us and is wondering what to get!)

Little Blue Truck: Every time I take my kids to the library, this is the book my littlest ones grab. A cute story that you won’t mind reading over and over… and over and over.

The Wonky Donkey: If you haven’t seen the video that went viral a few years ago, you can watch as a Grandma reads Wonky Donkey. When you’ve finished drying your eyes after laughing at that video, you’ll see why this is not only a hit with the kids but with the parents too.

First 100 Trucks and Things That Go: Bright pictures of real vehicles and a soft cover that kids love to hold. What little boy wouldn’t adore this? Alas, this is another that my parents own so I don’t have it here. Thankfully they can flip through it whenever we go across the road.

Mommy Loves Her Baby/Daddy Loves His Baby: We used to read this two sided book every night with our older two. Then it got shelved for a few years. The younger two boys recently pulled it out and I have read it numerous times since then. This is out of print so you’d have to get a used copy, usually with library markings, but it is worth it times 1000! We add in our child’s names to make it every more special (“Mommy loves her Asher like the fishies love the seas”)

Eric Carle Box Set: Most people are familier with The Very Hungry Caterpiller but Eric Carle has so many other great books as well. No child’s library is complete without several of his titles.

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” – Dr. Seuss

MyM Books for Young Boys

 

Tacky the Penguin: A fun little diddy about a penguin who isn’t like all the others. He doesn’t march in time with the others but that’s okay because he’s still pretty awesome. My more active boys like to get up and copy his funny walk while they’re listening. Not all story times need to be calm! There are actually several Tacky books that are all super fun.

Curious George: I hope I don’t need to say anything about this curious and mischievous yet incredibly lucky monkey. Things just always seem to work out for him. 

Magic School Bus: There are various versions of these books but these older ones are our favorites. They are, unfortunately, out of print but you can often find them used. I bought about 20 of them at a garage sale and they have been loved so much that some of them are nearly laminated in packing tape from the amount of repairs I’ve made. The only one I would caution about it the dinosaurs book as there is a pretty graphic picture of one dinosaur eating another. My more sensitive children didn’t like that image. If you don’t have Netflix, the Magic School Bus DVD series of the older episodes are pretty awesome too (but this is a book list so… get the books!)

Clifford Collection: The puppy days series is cute for really young children but my middle kids like enjoy the classics more. 

Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site: Dejavu? Yes, this is in the list twice. This version is not a board book but it glows in the dark. Perfect for bedtime stories for older children who no longer tear pages. 

Drumheller Dinosaur Dance: In spite of the fact that this book is about dinosaur bones coming out of the ground to dance all night (which sounds very creepy as I type it out) it has provided many moments of giggles for my boys. We actually live not to far from the Dinosaur Provincial Park and have visited the Drumheller Dinosaur Museum so this one holds a special place on our shelves. That and it is just plain fun to read!

The Jesus Storybook Bible: We have had a lot of children’s Bibles but this one is, by far, our favorite. It weaves the story from creation, to Jesus, to the new heaven and earth together in such a way that you the kids can finally understand the purpose of the old testament and see how God has worked through all of history. Many families get a copy of this Bible for each child as a keepsake. The movies aren’t full cartoon (more just moving images) but the boys love it anyway. Then add in the audio version for car trips and you’ve got the perfect Bible gift set.

See Inside Second World War: This lift the flap book first caught their interest because it had tanks. Then they learned to read the words beside and their love of history started. 

See Inside How Things Work: This series of lift the flap books from Usborne are just wonderful. This one about machines is sure to pique your boy’s interest as many boys would rather figure out the how things work than the why things work. 

First Big Book of How: This book by National Geoprahic has great pictures and lots of interesting little blurbs that will bring your kids on an exciting adventure as the expand their curiosity as well as reading skills. You hook them with the cool picutres and then they want to keep going as they learn how things work.

Big Book of Big Machines: This book has more cartoony pictures but the information it gives about the uses of different machines and how they work is more in depth than you would expect. As a farmer, I am always nervous about farm machinery facts writted by city people but their description of how a combine works was pretty impressive!

Book List Older Boys

Castle Diary: Information and a story about life in a medieval castle that your boy can keep coming back to and can lead to many other books in the medieval time period.

The Fun Knowledge Encyclopedia: Small bites to read and lots of variety and awesome pictures. The perfect book for a boy who doesn’t want to read. Draw them in with the pictures and they stick around for the education and reading practice.

Imagination Station: If you are familiar with Magic Treehouse you’ll understand the gist of these as they are a Christian version. I find they are written much better though. The series is about a couple of kids go back in time and learn about that period and they learn a life lesson. It is a great introduction to chapter books or makes an exciting but not scary bedtime read aloud.

Weapon: A Visual History of Arms and Armour: Boys usually like guns. And tanks. And swords. I managed to keep any weapon paraphernalia out of my house for quite a while but they still found sticks and made lego guns. So I bought this book. This book has some amazing pictures of historical artifacts and, even though they weren’t reading yet, my boys would flip through this book for ages. As they developed reading skills, they started to take in the facts and, at this point, my boys know way more about history (battles, culture, rise and fall of kingdoms etc) than I do. All because I hooked them with pictures of weapons. 

Diary of an 8-bit Warrior: Minecraft + graphics + intriguing character = the first chapter books my 8yo ever read. He started truly reading earlier this year and his 11yo brother loved these books so much that he figured he would give them a try. He jumped from barely reading to reading this whole series of chapter books. I wasn’t about to tell them they were too advanced for him. These were lent by a friends who’s son had very little interest in reading but loved these books. If your boy is into Minecraft, these are a sure winner. They look to be a bit on the younger end but even my husband enjoyed reading them aloud for bedtimes (so the 6 year old could hear the story his brothers raved about) so they can be fun for older kids as well.

Ralph S. Mouse: Another cute story about a mouse who drives a motorcycle. Clean and interesting enough to capture a boy’s attention. 

Virtual reality: This book comes with an app that allows children to really get into the topic, whether it be looking into space or peering underwater at ocean creatures. Younger kids will enjoy this as well but may need help and older kids will have a lot of fun with it.

A Pioneer Story: This is so much more than just a story about a pioneer family. It has activity ideas that will help your children connect more with pioneer times. It has life lessons. It can help them develop an appreciation for the advanced technological time we live in. And it can offer creative ideas for your children to get outsdie in the great outdoors. Don’t tell my kids but this but it will be under our tree because we’ve borrowed it from the library so many times it just doesn’t make sense not to have it on our own shelves.

A Way Through the Sea: A gentle introduction into the lives of children during WW2. We were gifted a copy by a friend who had them growing up but I believe they are currently out of print. I normally prefer my boys to have hard copies in hand but this was such a great series that I linked to the kindle version. We have a tablet with kindle and, as I was looking up this link, I learned that there are 8 books in the series, not 5. So I plan to get the rest of the series for my boys sometime soon.

The Chronicles of Narnia: No book list would be complete without this series. Some of the books (particularly The Silver Chair) are little more intence but most of the series is great for boys. And adults. I have to be honest and say that I bought these for myself and it was just a perk that the boys are enjoying them too. But with the action and adventure in them, who could blame them?

The Prince Warriors: These books look intimidating to a new reader but are a good enough story that they’ll plug through. They are fantasy but with an allegorical theme, similar to Chronicles of Narnia. The kids go into a fantasy world where they fight evil and earn their armour and weapons. Each piece of armour represents a character trait that they need to develop before they earn it. They are well written, the story is a page turner and it has a good ending. 

Dragon Keepers Chronicles Series: This is another fantasy series with good lessons. But this time it involves dragons. If your kids like How to Train a Dragon, they’ll love these as well. Each character gets more than one dragon in this series and they can harness the powers of each as required. The kids save villages and fight against the bad guy who is trying to get a dragon army to defeat the dragon keepers (sound familiar?). Another series with what could be seen as an allegorical theme, similar to Chronicle of Narnia. It was a pleasant surprise to find a series about dragons with themes that I feel good about introducing to my children. 

Wartime Farm: This is originally a BBC TV mini-series (which you can find on YouTube) that has been expanded on and turned into a book. It has a bit of history and a bit of homesteading-type stuff. The people live for a year as if they were in the 1940s. They eat according to rations at the time, plant and harvest according to agricultural methods, and live with only conveniences found during that time period. BBC has also done TV mini-series with matching books on Edwardian Farm, Tudor Monastary Farm, and Victorian Farm. We have watched all the series at least once and, after he read the books, my 11yo filled us in on so many more details and factoids that enhanced the show for us. 

Who Was Series: There are so many books in this series about a huge variety of famous people. There was also a show on Netflix that was full of silliness and songs but also nice facts (maybe it is still there?). This series looks like it is quite juvenile but I found the text in the books was a bit much for my younger ones. The 8yo and 11yo have borrowed them from the library and managed to glean quite a bit more information from them. Learning about real people is something that captures the attention of most boys. Usborne had a good youth level biography series as well (beautiful and hard cover with color picutres) but they are quite a bit more expensive than these. You can get a lot more people introduced to your boys with more affordable books.

I know there are an infinite amount of books out there and it can be overwhelming to figure out which ones are actually worth it. Some are worth borrowing from the library but there are certain books that are worth the investment to house on your own shelves to allow your child to pick them up time and time again. Books really are an investment in your child’s education and future. Even if all they want to read is fantasy or graphic novels, getting your boy used to reading is one of the best gifts you can give them! 

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Life is stressful. Things don’t go according to our plans and sometimes it’s hard to see God’s hand in the picture that He is painting in our lives. Seasons of change, seasons of struggle, seasons of distress, seasons of darkness. We all have them. It can be so hard to consistently maintain an attitude of gratitude!
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The amazing thing about going through all of the trials is that, as a believer in God, we have a Light at the end of the tunnel. Even when that tunnel seems to go on forever and you can’t even see the Light through the dark, it’s there. We can cling to that hope.

Just because we can’t see the big picture doesn’t mean that it isn’t beautiful. 

I’m reminded of a story that I heard a long time ago about a person who looks at a beautiful tapestry. The Creator walks up beside her and they have a conversation about the rich and vibrant colors. God explains that this is the tapestry of the observer’s life. The person is confused because she can’t understand how her life, full of so many trials and tears, could weave such a beautiful finished product. God then points out to her that the crimson threads in the flowers are her trials, the dark blues in the sky are her tears.

God then points out to her that the crimson threads in the flowers are her trials, the dark blues in the sky are her tears.

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It occurred to me that this is the second time this week that I’ve written about attitude. On Monday I wrote about developing a mothering attitude and today I’m talking about an attitude of gratitude. Perhaps this is because the last few weeks (maybe even the last few years?) have been a mental struggle for me. I’ll be totally honest and say that it has been tough to be eating dinner alone with my kids nearly every night and telling them that daddy isn’t able to read bedtimes stories tonight because he’s working late. It’s tough to be woken up 25 times a night with an upset (read: screaming) toddler for what seems like no reason at all other than he’s mad that he’s not still asleep. It’s tough to remain positive when I’m in pain from my pregnancy and it feels like nothing is going right. Writing this post, as well as the one on Monday, has been a great reminder to myself to focus on the fact that this phase in our life will pass (i.e. the Biscuit will sleep again… someday!) and to look for the beauty within the trials.

God doesn’t appreciate grumbling and I don’t want to let it gain a foothold. I missed writing in my gratitude journal several days last week and it really affected my mental state.

Here are some of the things that I’m grateful for:

 

Biscuit is waking up. I would rather he wake up 25 times than never again.
I have a loving husband who is willing to put in ridiculous hours to feed our family.
I have been blessed with amazing friends who were willing to uproot their whole lives to follow God’s call to come work with us.
Since we now have extra help on the farm, I haven’t had to do chores and my physical pain has significantly lessened because of it.
The crops are off so Adam has been able to join us for dinner and bedtimes the last couple nights.
Have you had moments of grumbling too? Even though you may not be able to see the final picture, share in the comment section some things that you’re choosing to be grateful for, in spite of the trials. Feel free to share your trials as well so I can say a prayer for you. 
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Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) has been something I’ve known about since I was a teenager. It wasn’t until I was quite a bit older, however, that it became more clear to me how I can deal with the effects of this. So I’ve put together some of my favorite tips for beating winter blues.

1. Artificial sunshine: You let the energy light lamp

shine on your face for 15-30 minutes during the morning or afternoon to give you an energy boost. This is a method that I have not actually used yet but loved ones have found it extremely beneficial. I just added it to my Christmas wish list for next year. It will come in handy next year when the baby doesn’t nap as frequently as he currently does. His less frequent napping schedule will limit my napping opportunities and lack of sleep leaves me with little energy to stabilize my emotions. Update Jan 2020: I recently bought this SAD Light and have been using it this winter. I love it! I use it in the morning and right after lunch and find it helps with feeling more refreshed in the morning as well as mostly avoiding the after lunch energy slump.)

2. Sunny people: Spend time with fun friends. I’m a more serious person by nature so I find others who can bring a little bit of sunshine into my life. Being married not only means I am accountable to someone with my mood (i.e. it’s not fair for him to come home to a moping wife every day), but one of the things I love most about my husband is that he can make me laugh. He lightens me up. I have been blessed with friends who lighten my mood. I also have a few sons who can “turn his goof on,” as we like to say, and can have our whole household cracking up. Laughter is a wonderful medicine.
3. Sunshine in a bottle: Vitamin D3 supplement

can be a huge help. There is not a lot of sunshine during the winter so giving yourself a vitamin boost can have some big benefits. Another wintertime supplement that can make a difference for mood stability is omega 3.

4. Go outside: Fresh air, sunshine on your face, watching your kids play in the snow, exercise. All of these things help boost your mood. After being cooped up inside during the cold snaps that occur during much of the winter, I really appreciate going outside for even a few minutes just to breath. There is also something healing about being outside in direct contact with God’s creation.
5. Countdown: Remind yourself that there are only about 2 months left of winter. It will probably be less for some of you, depending on your location. Maybe even less for me as I’m further south than I have lived in the past. I countdown until I can start my garden seeds. I count down to Easter. I count down to my oldest son’s spring time birthday. Little stepping stones that keep me pushing forward toward sunshine season.
6. Music: There are summertime songs, and there are wintertime songs. Play some summertime music and dance like no one’s watching. My kids LOVE this one and they take turns being my dance partner. It can be a lot of fun to let loose once in a while. Here’s a list of some of the ones that my family has been dancing to lately:
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  • Walking on Sunshine – Katrina and the Waves
  • Uptown Girl – Billy Joel
  • Kokomo – Beach Boys
  • 500 miles – The Proclaimers
  • Hey Mickey – Toni Basil
  • Wannabe – Spice Girls
  • Angel – Shaggy
  • Whenever Wherever – Shakira
  • Eye of the Tiger – Survivor
  • Don’t Stop Believing – Journey
6. Foundational Habits: The best thing anyone can do is to establish a good rhythm of self care. Establishing habits before you are in the thick of seasonal affective disorder is ideal but anyone can start with something as simple as working on gratitude. In my Self Care Series I share how I begin at the bottom and work my way up anytime that I notice I’m slipping into seasonal affective disorder or depression.
Do you suffer from seasonal affective disorder or winter blues? Please share your favorite tips beating winter blues. And drop your email in the box below and I’ll send you my free Habit Workbook and Habit Tracker. It will walk you through how to set habits fo various areas of your life and give you the tools you need to begin setting that foundation of habits where better lives begin.
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Last night I lay awake for an hour working through some anxiety and attempting to prevent a panic attack. 

My husband lay on one side of me and my toddler lay on the other, with his soft, pudgy arms wrapped securely around my neck. I listened to their steady breathing and worked to control my own.

It used to be completely random but, at this point, it often starts with some physical symptoms that are similar to the evening when I collapsed. 

 

One day I’ll share the full story and how it affected my day-to-day life but the short of it is that I was picking up take-out when I was 8 months pregnant with my now 2.5yo and fainted (to put it mildly). I ended up waking up 45 minutes later in an ambulance that took me for a 2 day hospital stay. In spite of lots of tests, they never could figure out why it happened. I had several near-fainting episodes over the next years but they have gradually become further apart. The most recent episode was about 8 months ago.

 

So last night I lay in bed wondering if it was happening again. I’m at the same point in my pregnancy so the trauma of that event has been on my radar regularly which means I’m watching extra closely for symptoms similar to that first event. I have had a few busy and stressful weeks so I have been more fatigued than usual and not watching my diet as closely. 

 

I feel as though, if it were to happen again, I would be powerless to stop it. What a hard concept to wrap my head around! I have no choice but to plan for the possibility as well as I can and leave the rest in God’s hands. 

 

And yet I become anxious.

 I feel as though, if it were to happen again, I would be powerless to stop it. What a hard concept to wrap my head around! I have no choice but to plan for the possibility as well as I can and leave the rest in God’s hands. 

And yet I become anxious.

Back to last night, I listened to my loved ones’ steady breathing. I let my husband know I was going downstairs to the bathroom, both so he would know he was on toddler cuddle duty for a bit and so he could wait for my return (and check on me if I took too long).  I ate something (for the record: cheese strings are a handy midnight snack). I laid back down and my mind went to that fateful February night.

I managed to catch up to my runaway memories to stop and redirect them. 

 

I reminded myself of my emergency plan and how it would play out. 

 

Then I started thanking the Lord for my blessings. 

 

With one arm wrapped around my toddler and one hand on my husband, I prayed over them. Then I went through each of my boys in the other room and pictured myself putting my hand on them to pray over them. (I learned recently that the physical act of touching something during a moment of panic or anxiety is called “grounding” and helps keep me connected to reality rather than drifting off into mental lala land.)

 

Last night I barely made it through praying over my own family before falling back to sleep but other nights I have moved on to friends, extended family, community, government etc. A Mama friend from a long time ago had a little one who had her nights and days backwards and my friend decided that, if she was going to be awake alone all night, she might as well do something productive so she prayed all night with her newborn in her arms. I have never forgotten her idea and have applied it often over many years of insomnia. 

Anxiety and panic disorders suck. I have been dealing with mental health issues (depression and mild anxiety) since I was a teen but I never really understood how severe the physical symptoms of a panic disorder can be until a few years ago. It can be so much more that a racing heart and sweaty palms. It can feel like a heart attack!

 

To those who deal with them regularly: I feel for you. I now understand. I hope you find help and I pray you find hope in trusting the Lord. He may give you a miraculous cure or He may be a safe place to rest your mind. Because it is so difficult and scary to deal with.

In the meantime, I work through my 3 steps for how to deal with anxiety:

 

  1. Acknowledge the issue and make a simple plan if the worst case happens (Ex. For my this meant unlocking my phone so my kids, or a stranger if it happened in public, can call my husband. I also programmed my phone to text my husband if I hit the power button three quick times and he gets an “SOS” message and knows to call me to make sure I’m okay. My kids also know to roll my off my belly (aka. the baby) if needed and elevate my feet and all their dad or my mom).
  2. Ground myself by physically touching or anchoring myself to something (Ex. I touch a person, a wall, a coffee mug, or sometimes even just laying on the floor and focusing on the feel of my palm on the cold laminate.)

  3. Focus on taking deep breaths to calm my heart while counting my blessings, through prayer or through a simple bullet point list.
While I largely found some ways to cope on my own, I wish I had gotten professional help sooner (I only started seeing someone a couple months ago as my pregnancy has increased my anxiety). Only time will tell whether I’ll end up in the hospital again during this pregnancy and trusting God’s path for that still has it’s hard moments. All I can do right now is take it one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time.

Disclaimer: Please keep in mind that I’m not a trained therapist and I do think it can be really beneficial to talk to a professional about your particular situation, which will probably look very different than mine. Everyone has different triggers and a different level of severity and it’s just amazing to have someone to talk to who can walk you through some coping mechanisms. 

 

I share bits of my journey every week praying that it encourages you and helps you feel like there is Hope and that you’re not alone. Sign up for my weekly updates below to make sure you don’t miss a post and, as a bonus, I’ll send you a free printable Habit Workbook that walks you through a few simple steps to help you bring more peace and positive direction in your life. 
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A peaceful room leads to a peaceful mind

 

One of the major things that I do to care for myself mentally include having a “mom safe” zone in the house. We live with 6 (almost 7) of us all day, every day, in about 1300sq ft, much less if you factor in that we don’t have toys in bedrooms. This means every inch of our house is used to the fullest capacity. As the kids are getting older they require different levels of toys and entertainment (such as keeping Lego and microscopes away from babies) and, for a long time, I prioritized them and their needs. Once I recognized that I needed even just a small area to control, I started setting some boundaries. 

 

One is that the living room floor should be tidied every evening. The kids have a play zone on the other side of the kitchen but, as is natural, toys manage to drift into the living room. I also keep toddler toys and books in the living room so littler ones are less likely to destroy Lego creations that have been left out. Add in the storage bench full of blankets and pillows and the dining chairs nearby and the living room gets turned into war bunkers or castle forts or 2 story “houses” complete with a Tonka truck garage. And did I mention the boots and coats that get kicked off in the entry and end up in the living room because the front door opens right up into my living room? And then let’s just throw in an occasional towel that has migrated from the bathroom. 

 

But every evening we focus on Tidy Time. (Yes, I just capitalized that, because it is sacred part of the rhythm of our home.) This is one of the things I started when my eldest two were toddlers so it has mostly become second nature (not that the kids never fight me on it). We do almost no screen time during the day so we “bring peace to our home” at around 5pm (though my eldest has discovered he gets more game time if he starts at 4:30pm and is done his tasks by 5pm) which looks like me picking the room or two that are causing me the most stress and getting the kids to teamwork tidy.

They tidy while I make dinner and then they get some screen time until we eat supper (between 6
and 6:30, depending on when my husband comes in from the farm). 

They get to game, I don’t have them underfoot (as much) while I make dinner, and I can spend my evening in a more peaceful room. There’s the added bonus of the fact that my bathroom is off my living room and I already have to navigate a steep, old farmhouse stairs (which have already caused a broken foot this year) so the last thing I want to do in a sleepy haze is weave through and over toys and forts. Any parent knows that stepping on Lego is incredibly painful but you don’t know until you’ve done it that stepping on a matchbox car is downright dangerous! 

Any parent knows that stepping on Lego is incredibly painful but you don’t know until you’ve done it that stepping on a matchbox car is downright dangerous! 

Even the Mind Needs Exercise

I schedule in daily time to read something productive. I have no issues making time to read novels and often neglect my home and family when I get sucked into a good story. So I typically need to restrict myself there. Some people get sucked into social media scrolling or Netflix but, for me, it’s novels. When I say “productive,” I mean non fiction and usually something to educate or encourage me in my God given roles. These are books that I often can take in bite sized pieces and require thought between sections. I currently give myself the second part of my toddler’s nap time (I usually nap a bit first) to sit and read while taking some notes in the Evernote app on my phone. This 30 or so minutes of stimulating my mind like this rejuvenates me for the rest of the afternoon. The nap before and coffee while I read also help, I’m sure. 


Productive Work Time

I take one morning each week to do office work for the farm. It is about 3 hours of sitting at my mom’s house and putting my “education” to good use while my husband spends time with the kids. Before children I was in finances, largely helping families set goals, budget, and make a plan for the future. My office morning consists mostly bookkeeping data entry but, as with any business, farming requires budgets and plans as well. I don’t so much enjoy the data entry part but I love plotting the progression our farm goals and brainstorming ways to bring it there. So technically this is me going to work but I count it as mental stimulation. 

I also take a couple hours every other week do to some technical blogging stuff. I write in the mornings but laptop time to do images or formatting is in short supply. So every couple of weeks I get childcare (usually my husband at this point) to hammer out some of the more techy stuff for my blog. I love checking off those little details from my list. Such a good feeling!

 

Maybe your productive time looks like hammering out a few housekeeping tasks or getting some freezer cooking done or even giving the floors a good scrub. Do something every week that gives you that feeling of accomplishment. 

Pursuit for You

I ignored God’s call on my life for far too long. I focused on improving my marriage, mothering, homeschool, housekeeping, farming, and volunteering, which are all worthwhile and necessary pursuits, but I denied a large part of who I am, to my own detriment. 

God gives all of us certain skills and talents and he does so with the expectation that we use them. He doesnt expect us to put it all on hold when we become mothers. Sometimes these skills fall into place in our role as mothers (for example, my love of making simple routines and checklists works well for my home and homeschool lifestyle) and sometimes our skills can be expanded beyond our roles as mothers (such as the habit setting workbook I created to help YOU develop simple routines and checklists). 

We spend so much time focusing on improving our weaknesses that we often forget that we even have strengths. Take some time to figure out and name what you ARE good at in your current roles. Maybe you are an excellent cook. Or maybe you’re really good at playing with and having fun with your children (yes, this is absolutely a skill!). Do you have a great eye for fashion or decor? Do you kill it in the frugal living department? Are you interested or educated in a certain topic that most people are not well versed in but is applicable for your family? 

How can/do you use those skills to bless your family? Are you using those skills beyond your family? Do you feel called to share those skills beyond your family?

A daily prayer: Lord, please show me what skills and talents you have instilled in me and guide me in how to use those skills to bless my family. And Lord, if it is Your will, show me how I can bless those beyond my family with the gifts You have given to me. Use me to fulfill Your will. 

 

Since this is the last installment of my Self Care Series, I thought I’d make something to help you out on your own path to self care. Self care is all about creating good habits so I’ve put together a printable Habit Workbook to guide you through the process of choosing and tracking habits. 

 

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